Stress And The Control Freak

Are you a control freak? If so, you have a lot of stress in your life. This is not a good thing. You must learn that you cannot control everything. Accept this fact, let go, and you will be a much happier person.

Stress comes everyday in all sorts of life situations. For the control freak, stress is doubled because because he/she believes that controlling everything will make all things turn out fine. Not true!

First of all, no one but God can control everything. It is best to let go and ask God to control the things in your life the way He wants.

Second, you cannot control the thoughts, motives, and actions of others. Accept it--it is true. If you are a control freak, you believe that by knowing everything that is going on, you can control it. This is not true. Accept this fact and let go. The stress will literally melt off of you when you realize and accept that you cannot control the lives of your spouse, your teens, and your other family members and loved ones.

I have three teenagers. For years I believed that if I knew everything going on in my children's lives, I could fix whatever was wrong and make my teens turn out perfect. This control freak was surprised to find out that I don't know a great deal of what is going on in their lives because they don't want me to know.

Also, they have informed me that they do not want my help with anything unless they ask for it. Another surprise! Kids change so much when they become teenagers!

It has been freeing to understand this and to release a lot of issues. Slowly, my stress level has dropped.

Here is another issue of control--trying to monitor and control your spouse.

Over the past five years, I have learned and continue to learn that I cannot control my husband. He has been in Iraq, Kuwait, and Afghanistan for most of the past four years. I only know the little bit of information that he chooses to tell me by e-mail. He does not tell me much.

If he chooses to stay in a war zone in Iraq or Afghanistan, there is nothing I can do.

I was having a difficult time earlier this year. I have now accepted that I cannot control him or his actions. I have finally let go. There is nothing I can do. Most of the stress and anxiety I have had since February are finally gone.

I hate the entire situation but since there is nothing I can do about it at this point, I have relinquished control. Relinquished control? I actually had no control. I only thought I did.

So, if you want to recover from being a control freak, realize and understand that you cannot control others. Accept this fact and release it.

Get a hobby such as painting, drawing, cross-stitch, gardening, or building a website.

Get regular chair or table massages to feel better physically and emotionally.

All of the above actions will help to relase you from the heavy weight of unhealthy stress and worry.

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